The Craft Manual: Stature

The Craft Manual: Stature

Stature as it relates to Craft; Your position in the community most relevant to you. How you are perceived amongst your peers.

Read the definition and you're thinking to yourself, "I knew that already." Nah, you didn't.

See the fact of the matter is, there is a stark contrast between knowing and applying. But that's why we're here. Me and you, as a unit. Stature in the age of today's technologies is a completely different situation. Think, how instant is the information you receive? How immediate are your judgements? In the age of Twitter and Internet time it can be over for you before it even started. But I'll guide you through that, follow me...

Your starting point for stature should be the mirror, you'll be yourself much longer than you'll be any one else. So be the best you, you can possibly be. Realize you're unique and there will never be a clone. Sounds corny, but that's all leaders do. They speak and stand up for what ever they believe and others follow suite. The same applies for your everyday life. That confidence will radiate in abundance if you just stay true to your beliefs; trust me the people will love you for it. Nobody wants to listen or speak to a mirror image. If that were true, I'd just talk to myself.

Male Perspective: As a man, stature will get you in the door before you even entered the GPS coordinates. How you're received and how people discuss you while your not around will determine your quality of life. I'm not talking only relationships but in the workplace as well. Think of the angles, be engaging and interesting but not detrimental to yourself.

Case in point, you and her are texting at a furious pace and you think it is wise to ask for a picture message. No. Wrong move. Although you might hint at your desire to see her on a nightly basis, you don't want that out there for the world to see. And believe me, you're in to it more than she is. And that one text will change her entire opinion of you. This route is a quick way to the put your twitter mentions in middle earth and not be able to have a decent conversation with anybody respectable for atleast two summers.

Now, let's explore the same situation with a different strategy. Instead of being anxious to show her your down to please, ease off the thirst. She gave you the number, so there was a leap of faith hoping you wouldn't be a creep. Now prove her right. How you go about this is by keeping it fun and light. Let her LOL at the most candid of jokes and relate. Spark her mind and interest and you'll gain entry into her world. She's looking for a connection whether she says it our not. If she likes you, she'll do her research. Yeah man, I've been legally background checked before. The Stature runs deep. Be upfront about your faults and show who you are. She should know being with you propels her into a world of progression and friends who share common interest. Believe me, approval of your and/or her peers is paramount. And don't give her the 'a lot of my friends are girls' line. That'll send her for the hills without a rear view mirror.

Stature for Her: Ladies, let's end the myths. Men talk just as much as women if not more. How does that apply to you? Use discretion as much as possible. Live your life, no Rihanna voice. But do so with the understanding that decisions made on 151 could come back to haunt you. Let me elaborate... Night at a club. So you're doing your thing, pencil dress, curls with a slight bang, all this and you caught the Bakers sale to grab those exclusive heels. Yeah, the thirst is running rampant around you. How you conduct yourself is very important. Two scenarios may occur; the first is where you succumb to temptation and let 'him' buy a bottle and maybe even get your number. Sounds innocent enough right? No. That story turns into a night out with the top down and you leaving his house in the morning. That's the tale us men hear.

The second situation starts and ends with you dancing with your girls. Keep the 'ballers' at bay. You understand news travels fast, but that's not what you're there for. Come with your girls, party with your girls, leave with your girls. Why? Because regardless of outcome, perception will be fact. If you chill with a man majority of the night, you can assume what people will say next. Now a night like that you may think it will be a minor infraction in the grand scheme of things. Nah, you're wrong again. When selecting their wife, men take everything into consideration. They will ask the 5 people who know you best about what your capable of, including the one who shows you the most love. She has the best dirt and is all too willing to share. If 'bottle poppin, jersey chasing groupie' comes back, just exit stage left; it's over for you. Men want a women with stature, and to men that equates to innocence or newness. Men don't want a woman off the 'gently used' rack.

Let's make it all make sense...stature comes down to decision making. For both parties, in any situation. Men have to factor in that women are seeking stability, adventure and finances. Men are looking for the pure, unexplored women that can give the kids great values. In the age where rumors travel faster than a bullet, be aware of how you're perceived and only make decisions if you're good with the consequences. Odds are, if you have to explain it, then it isn't worth it. But when you meet that person that's right for you and everything checks out, tell em Bobby White sent you...

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The Craft Manual: Stature Part 2 dropping this Thursday. Thank You.