State Of The 'Rowe: Man Up!

Lately I've noticed a serious epidemic among my own gender. Gossip! Now, this is a common, expected, and to a degree acceptable behavior in women. However, as I look around, I'm starting to notice that MEN are participating in this activity at an alarming rate. What I'm gonna try to do here is shed some light on a few things and hopefully make sense of it all. Bear with me. No grizzly. (Red Cups & Hookah Smoke coming soon. Shameless plug. I don't care.)

One thing I never understood was the whole 'Kiss & Tell' concept. For those who may be unfamiliar, to 'Kiss & Tell' is to basically run around and openly reveal those who you've had previous relations with. I know a lot of women who do it amongst each other. They sometimes call it 'Girl Talk', and that's cool. But what do we, the men, call it? 'Boy Talk'? Sounds kind of suspect right? Exactly! Therefore this probably means we shouldn't be participating in such activity. However, I see dudes do it all the time. For instance, a dude bags a chick. A chick who other dudes might think is the baddest chick out. What does he do? He does whatever he does with ole girl, then AFTER he runs around and tells everybody he can. For what though? Bragging rights? Just to say you did it? It just doesn't make sense to me. I used to believe in the phrase 'It's a small world'. Nowadays, not so much. The world is only as small as you make it. If you go around telling everybody your every move and your every interaction with everyone, then yes, you've definitely shrunken the size of your globe. I don't know about you, but my world is big as hell. Why? Because I keep my mouth closed. I've had some of the coldest chicks that the state I live in has to offer. Honestly. But you would never know. Not because of me anyway. If they want to tell you, cool, but I can't see myself putting out a tell-all book about the females I've dated, and that's mostly out of respect. Another reason I wouldn't say anything is because of the uproar it would cause if I did. For some reason, dudes try to play me like I'm not supposed to get chicks. And maybe I'm not, but I do. So, riddle me that *dude from The Hangover voice*. This leads me to my next point...

Fellas, we HAVE to stop throwing dirt on other dude's names to get to these women. For one, it's corny as hell. I see it all the time. Dude approaches a chick like "What's good?". She hits him with the "Not interested. I got a boyfriend". Then as a response he goes "THAT'S who you go with??? Mannnnn, he's lame" or "I heard he got STD's" or some other hater-type statement meant to drive her away from who she's with. Newsflash! Chicks don't like that! No female wants to see you talking down on another man as a means of getting them. You look super feminine and unless she's the lesbian type, she's not gonna dig you. We gotta do better, if that's who she likes, then that's who she likes. Chalk it up and take that L.

My final point is this; Why is it that every time a dude loses his chick to another dude, he takes his frustration out on everybody BUT his chick? Cats be out here worried about all the wrong things. How can you be mad at a man who 9 times out of 10 didn't even know that was your chick? Now granted, sometimes we know. And to pursue anyone despite knowing they're taken is wack. However, there's no telling what she could've told homie. I've seen it, I've lived it, but when it's all said and done you look weak targeting the outside party.

At the end of the day...

Some of what was said applies to women also. I just wanted to address my own one time. The saying goes, "Loose lips sink ships". That shit really makes no sense, but I kind of see where they were going with that. If she sends you some picture mail, enjoy it. Send some back if that's what you're into, but DON'T forward it to all the homies like a lame. It's dudes like this who break the trust of females and mess up picture mail for all of us. All I'm saying is the less you talk, the more you can do. The more you talk, the more restrictions you place on your moves because the people you talk to probably talk as much as you. Man up.